Saturday, May 26, 2012

Saturday, May 19, 2012

Bishop Liam Cary: New defender of a greater flock.

Principal consecrator: Are you resolved as a good shepherd to seek out the sheep who stray 
and to gather them into the fold of the Lord?

Bishop-elect: I am.

Newly ordained Bishop Liam Cary sits with Archbishop John George Vlazny (Principal Consecrator), 
 Bishop Robert Francis Vasa and Bishop William Stephen Skylstad (Principal Co-Consecrators). May 18, 2012.

Congratulations Bishop Cary.  May God bless you and guide you all the days of your life. 

Thanks to Marc Salvatore for these beautiful pictures.

Friday, May 11, 2012


How can it be a large career to tell other people’s children about [arithmetic], and a small career to tell one’s own children about the universe? 

How can it be broad to be the same thing to everyone, and narrow to be everything to someone? 

 No; a woman’s function is laborious because it is gigantic, not because it is minute.

–G.K. Chesterton

 Two kids are talking to each other. One says, "I'm really worried. My dad works twelve hours a day to give me a nice home and good food. My mom spends the whole day cleaning and cooking for me. I'm worried sick!"
The other kid says, "What have you got to worry about? Sounds to me like you've got it made!"
The first kid says, "What if they try to escape?"
Little Johnny's new baby brother was screaming up a storm. He asked his mom, "Where'd we get him?"
His mother replied, "He came from heaven, Johnny."
Johnny says, "WOW! I can see why they threw him out!" (jokes from
"Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body."
~Elizabeth Stone
“A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.”
-Tenneva Jordan
The blog ministry 'Hannah's Tears' offers prayer support and comfort to the brokenhearted who suffer the pains of infertility at any stage of life, difficult pregnancy, miscarriage, stillbirth, the loss of a child and the adoption process.
If you give a mom a muffin, she'll want some coffee to go with it.
She'll pour herself some.
The coffee will get spilled by her three year old.
She'll wipe it up.
Wiping the floor, she'll find some dirty socks.
She'll remember that she has to do some laundry.
When she puts the laundry in the washer, she'll trip over some shoes and bump into the freezer.
Bumping into the freezer will remind her that she has to plan a supper for tonight.
She will get out a pound of hamburger.
She'll look for her cookbook (101 Things with Hamburger)
The cookbook is under a pile of mail.
She will see the phone bill that is due tomorrow.
She will look for her checkbook
The checkbook is in her purse that is getting dumped out by her two year old.
Mom will smell something funny.
While she is changing the two year old, the phone will ring.
Her five year old will pick up and hang up the phone.
She will remember that she wants to phone a friend to come over for coffee on Friday.
Thinking of coffee will remind her that she was going to have a cup.
She will pour herself some more.
And chances are,
if she has a cup of coffee, 
her kids will have eaten the muffin that went with it.


Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Catholic Charities - "Consent is Sexy" Message When Bar Hopping

Update 11-20-13
 Community Alliance of Tenants Use this Venue too in 2013.

Catholic Charities is having their collection on May 5-6.  The people who are making a livelihood from Oregon collection plate tithes should be savvy enough to use our money wisely.  Catholic Charities in Oregon needs to be accountable to someone. 
First. Here is a great article from ORATES FRATES  member of Catholic Media Coalition.

Second. Below that article is a "conversation" between a keen Catholic and Roz Ramberg, the Public Relations Coordinator of Catholic Charities.

Both are getting to the same point.  For Catholic organizations to teach and proclaim all things Catholic.

PS The salsa clubs are not, to my knowledge, filled with "the poor and marginalized."   


In recognition of National Sexual Assault Awareness Month, Catholic Charities Project UNICA visited area nightclubs, including Andrea’s Cha Cha Club, in Portland to host “Nights of Consent” on April 19 and 20.

 Project UNICA staff greeted patrons at club entry points and used a hand-stamp reading, “Consent is Sexy” to promote and engage them in prevention of sexual assault.

Only Ed Baker gets it right:

“Let me get this straight. A “Catholic” organization is promoting the grave evil of fornication as an alternative to the grave evil of rape. Did it even occur to anyone at Oregon “Catholic” Charities to be courageous enough to promote virtue?”

No Ed, it didn’t.

According to the Catholic Charities press release:

“It’s important for people to know that without consent for sexual contact, it is rape; we are all responsible for keeping night clubs safe environments [?] where women don’t have to guard their drink or feel threatened,” said Project UNICA Program Manager Karen Janes.

Project UNICA staff hosted “Nights of Consent” at the following locations:

• Thursday, April 19 at Andrea’s Cha Cha Club, located at 832 S.E. Grand Ave. in Portland, from 10 p.m. to close
• Friday April 20 at Casa Colima, located at 6319 S.W. Capitol Hwy. in Portland, from 10 p.m. to close

ED NOTE: There is no Catholic edict against social dancing found in the Catechism of the Catholic Church. The subject herein is the offense of a Catholic organization promoting pre-marital sex, which according to Catholic teaching is fornication–Fornication “is carnal union between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman. It is gravely contrary to the dignity of persons and of human sexuality which is naturally ordered to the good of spouses and the generation and education of children. Moreover, it is a grave scandal when there is corruption of the young.” [CCC 2353]

Catholic Charities to visit nightclubs; talk about consent
Conversation with keen Catholic.

Hi Carolyn,

I wanted to be sure that you received the full exchange with Catholic
Charities. If you start at the bottom, you can follow the whole thing.   I
understand that there is a new director and they are slowly trying to clean
things up.  I am figuring that as long as they get charitable feedback,
maybe we can keep them on track.

God love us all!

-----Original Message-----
Sent: Wednesday, May 02, 2012 7:33 AM
To: 'Roz Ramberg'
Subject: RE: Catholic Charities

Hi Roz,

I truly appreciate your taking the time to respond to my concerns so clearly
and with such care.
Please indulge me as I clarify a couple of points.

I understood that the event was intended to help women at risk. Intention
was never in question.  I do find it somewhat difficult to accept this
statement "It was never our intent to imply that "consent" in any way
endorses pre-marital sexual behavior."  In the context of an event sponsored
in conjunction with sexual assault awareness, how would most people
interpret the tag line?  Education in ways to avoid sexual asault, offering
assistance out of abusive relationships, reinforcing for young women  that
they do not need to provide sexual favors to be considered of worth, all
good work. However, in this context, Consent is Sexy really is going to be
understood in one way.  Words mean things and it is important that one
carefully consider how the words one chooses will be heard by the intended

Finally, I refer back to your statement "it is our belief we can make a
difference in the safety of women and help foster the development of
healthy, dignified relationships- the  kind of relationships that can
progress appropriately to valid, lifelong relationships if that is God's
will and the intention of the couple."  I fully support this statement.
Catholic organizations have a long history of this type of help for the
underprivileged and vulnerable in a society, no matter their race or creed.
All should be treated with respect, dignity and compassion. But, a Catholic
organization cannot, in the name of helping people, ignore the souls of
those being helped. Not to convert them, but as Mother Teresa said:
"There is only one God and He is God to all; therefore it is important
that everyone is seen as equal before God. I've always said we should help a
Hindu become a better Hindu, a Muslim become a better Muslim, a Catholic
become a better Catholic. We believe our work should be our example to

Mother Teresa's sisters did not at any time compromise their adherence to
the Catholic faith in their work. The fact that the recipients of the
assistance are not Catholic, the fact that some employees of Catholic
Charities are not Catholic, does not change the fact that Catholic Charities
needs to do its work from within the teachings of the Catholic faith.
Because that is where Truth lies, and the Holy Spirit will bless the work

Thank you for your time and God bless you.
Name withheld by request

-----Original Message-----
From: Roz Ramberg []
Sent: Tuesday, May 01, 2012 5:08 PM
To: Subject: RE: Catholic Charities?


 We understand the use of a tag line "consent is sexy" can be construed in
many ways, some which are problematic. It was never our intent to imply that
"consent" in any way endorses pre-marital sexual behavior. In fact, the
objective of the event was to educate--through distributed educational
materials, speeches from survivors of sexual assault and one-on-one
conversations with domestic violence staff--that consent prior to any
activity is the essential component of a healthy and dignified relationship
and the first step in circumventing sexual assault.

Due to the nature of the public feedback we have received, it is apparent we

made a poor choice of words; thus we have opted to eliminate the use of this
language in outreach and prevention efforts of Catholic Charities.

We are proud of the work of Catholic Charities and work diligently to be

good stewards of donor contributions. We do not take this responsibility

Thank you, again, for the opportunity to address your concerns.


-----Original Message-----
Sent: Tuesday, May 01, 2012 10:33 AM
To: 'Roz Ramberg'
Subject: RE: Catholic Charities?


Thank you for your thoughtful reply.  I do have some additonal concerns,
however.  My initial question is how this particular project really
"empowers" women to say no? This appears to be targeted to the
Latino/Hispanic community.  A young man who receives the "Consent is Sexy"
stamp, thinks to himself, "Yes, it is great if the girls just consent, makes
it easier".  In a situation with a young woman who has grown up in a culture
where the men are more forceful in this regard, how does stamping them with
the phrase "Consent is Sexy"  empower them to say no?  Young women going to
a nightclub WANT to be sexy. I am NOT saying they want to be promiscuous, I
am saying that being sexy equates many times in our culture, and in certain
ethnic cultures, with being sexy. Now we have Catholic Charities sweeping in
telling them that "Consent is Sexy".

This is laudable: "it is our belief we can make a difference in the safety
of women and help foster the development of healthy, dignified relationships
- the  kind of relationships that can progress appropriately to valid,
lifelong relationships if that is God's will and the intention of the

The approach that was taken was at the least silly, at the worst harmful and
counter productive. Additionally, the Catholics in the pew are asked to
contribute to Catholic Charities and as they wish to participate in the
goals you stated in your reply, and to assist the poor and needy in our
community, they give to the best of their ability. The scandalous nature of
the project will give pause to many people.  Money is tight for many
families in these times, my own included and it is wrong to accept donations
from the Catholic faithful and use them for a project that is so clearly
counter to the teachings of the Catholic Church.   It is a violation of

I appreciate your taking the time to discuss this with me.  I am not wishing
to give offense in my questions, I am sincerely striving to come to some
understanding. I also realize that in social work there are often gray areas
and reasonable people may disagree about particular projects and their
worthiness.  This project fell well outside the boundaries of what is
acceptable for a Catholic organization to engage in. I have no idea if you
yourself are Catholic or not, so you may not realize, but for a Catholic
institution to give scandal in this way to the faithful is a very serious
thing.  Which, then, brings me to another question as to whether there is
any type of oversight(advice) given to keep the projects within the
acceptable guidelines.

Again, thank you for your time.  I am not anti-Catholic Charities.  Some of
my family's most fulfilling experiences were through Catholic Charities when
we were able to assist a couple of refugee families.

Name withheld by request to VOCAL

 -----Original Message-----
From: Roz Ramberg []
Sent: Tuesday, May 01, 2012 9:51 AM
Subject: FW: Catholic Charities?

It is our tradition to acknowledge and teach young women chastity and
integrity, spiritually and physically, before and after marriage.  In
Catholic Charities' service to the marginalized in our community, we seek to
empower our clients to absorb the knowledge and resources we provide for
them, and incorporate it into their lives to live as God calls them to.

While we do not justify or rationalize the active sexual behavior of our

clients, we are keenly aware we live in a society where women are all too
often victims of violence and sexual assault. According to the Oregon
Department of Justice, one out of every six adult women, or about 230,000
adult women in Oregon, has been the victim of forcible rape sometime in her

lifetime. It is our hope that events like "Nights of Consent" reach  women
who may be at risk of joining these victims. As a provider of a 24-hour
domestic violence hotline, it is our hope to prevent sexual assault, while
educating about respecting one another and promoting healthy, stable

By empowering women to say "no," and educating men that they must receive

consent before engaging women in any activity-including touching, dancing,
and talking, among other behaviors (actions that are not exclusively sexual
in nature), it is our belief we can make a difference in the safety of women
and help foster the development of healthy, dignified relationships - the
kind of relationships that can progress appropriately to valid, lifelong
relationships if that is God's will and the intention of the couple.

Thank you for the opportunity to address your concerns. We ask for your

continued prayers and support as we work to fulfill our mission to serve
Oregon's poor and most vulnerable populations regardless of faith, race,
marital status or condition in life. Please let me know if I may assist


Roz Ramberg
Public Relations Coordinator
Catholic Charities
Providing Help, Creating Hope
2740 SE Powell Blvd., Portland, OR 97202


-----Original Message-----
From: Bunce, Bud []
Sent: Monday, April 30, 2012 8:53 AM
To: Roz Ramberg
Subject: FW: Catholic Charities?


Would you or someone on C. Charities staff please respond to Ms. .

Bud Bunce

Director of Communications
Archdiocese of Portland

-----Original Message-----
Sent: Saturday, April 28, 2012 8:25 PM
To: Bunce, Bud
Subject: Catholic Charities?

I am deeply puzzled by this article in the Oregonian:

Is Catholic Charities affiliated with the Catholic Church?
I do not know where to turn for answers, other than the archdiocese.
Name withheld by request to VOCAL